Do you
remember the first time you rode on a roller coaster? The anticipation of what was going to happen
next was almost unbearable. The click
click click of the car moving up the track and you knew what was ahead. A drop so fast and so hard, it made your
stomach rise up into your throat. I am
on that roller coaster. Some moments it
feels like the good kind. The highs of a
good cup of coffee and the sunshine, and my sweet baby laughing are the moments
I am clinging to. And then there are
those moments when I am headed down the slope on the other side and I feel like
my stomach is in my throat and I desperately long to get off the ride. What was I thinking?!
I have
watched countless people come and go in my chair as their hairapist. Some are peaceful and we banter back and
forth about the day to day kinds of things.
The weather, their kids, their job.
And then there are those who are struggling. I mean really struggling. Cancer, the loss of a child, a divorce,
addiction. And I have always listened
carefully and if needed, I have tried to comfort those I can. I never thought I was immune to heartache
because Lord knows I have felt it before.
But these past few years, my life has been fairly good. I have been raising my kids (with some
struggles along the way) and buying a house and getting married. I don’t know what happens when we settle into
a comfortable routine of day to day living.
I don’t know if I thought I was immune to struggles. I don’t know if I finally thought it was my
turn to be happy. But, I chose to turn a
blind eye to a big problem. And I have
been asking myself over and over again, HOW COULD I HAVE MISSED THIS?
Even bigger
than the problems we face in our lives is the reaction we get from others. It is crazy to think when we haven’t walked
in another’s shoes, we somehow think we know how to handle and advise them on
their pain. Heartbreak of any kind is so
deeply personal. Not one person handles
it the same as another. And, regardless
of our best intentions, these things need to be handled in a tender way.
I have made
my fair share of mistakes through my pain.
I have shared too much. And then
there are times where I haven’t shared enough.
But, I had a moment of clarity last night. I was on the phone with my little sister. She has battled her fair share of
demons. I knew she was the one to
call. I knew she would understand my
pain. She simply said “why do you care
what other people think”? Excuse me for
those I offend with the words…HOLY.
SHIT. DUH! I have felt so strongly for the past few
months about what I needed to do to rectify my situation. I have exhausted all resources
available. So why in the heck, when I
had my own personal confirmation I was doing the right thing, am I worried
about what others have to say? HA! I feel like she smacked me upside my
head. She jolted me back to my reality. My truth is, I deserve to be happy. I deserve to live an authentic life. I deserve to be healthy and give my children
the best mom possible. No amount of
negativity is going to change what I know in my heart to be true.
I am now on
the roller coaster. Strapped in. Ready to go.
I am going to scream with fear at some points. I am going to be excited about the
anticipation at others. But the one
thing I now know for sure is, though I am not alone on the ride, the experience
of it is mine.
Thank you
little sis. Last night, you were one of
my angels. And this morning, I can hear
them singing again because of your wise words. Even now, it amazes me how the “right” person
is there at exactly the time when you need them the most. We are never really alone.
Believe.
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