Many times
when a new client visits me for the first time, they are somewhat taken
aback. Now, when I say this, I am sure
Penny is laughing. I am very passionate
about hair. And, I am my authentic
hairapist self from the first moment a new client walks in the door. Yes, my mind is racing with all the ideas I
have for them before they even speak.
But, even more importantly, I want to give them the best experience (or
even best first experience) with a hairapist.
I give a thorough consultation. I
really want to know what YOU are all about.
It matters to me. I want to make
sure YOU are cared for in the best way possible. And, I want it to show that I really do care.
So, my
questions to you today are, why do we wait to be our authentic selves? Or more importantly what are we waiting
for? Why is a hairapy session where
someone is showing they really care an exception to the day to day life we
live?
Many times,
we wait. We wait until someone is
sick. Really sick. Or, until someone in their family is sick
before we rally together as a community and show our authentic selves. We wait until someone has passed before we
say how much they meant to us. Past tense. Why my readers, why do we do this?!
This summer,
a client and friend of mine who we will call Sarah found out her husband had
cancer. Sarah is an amazing woman inside
and out. She has three beautiful
children and a hardworking, loving husband.
Sarah’s husband was diagnosed with cancer. Though we don’t see each other every day, I
really adore Sarah. And, when I found
out about her situation/crisis, I couldn’t rest until I did something to help
her and her family. Penny, like me, had
this cute family weighing on her heart.
Together we organized a fundraiser to help with any needs they may have
while Sarah’s husband went through treatment.
We were one of many. The family
was completely embraced with love and kindness from others through their time
of need. It was incredible to watch. I have prayed for her and her family many
times since the diagnosis. The community
rallied together and we were quite successful for such a small salon.
It is
amazing to me how people will pull together to help a loved one or a person in
the community when there is a crisis.
Why does it take something that turns another person’s world upside down
for us to show our hearts to one another?
The excuse of being too busy is just that…an excuse. Being busy means we might not have much time
in our day but it doesn’t mean we can’t be kind to one another.
Now, I am
not saying we should be like John Cusack in “Say Anything” and stand in front
of the house of someone we love with a boombox (yea, I said it. Do they even make those anymore?) proclaiming
our love for them. But, rather I am
saying, we need to let down our guard just a little bit more and recognize no
matter what we are going through personally, we are ALL going through something. And, isn’t it a little bit easier to go
through it when someone is kind to you?
I have many
days where one of my “regulars” will come in and they are dealing with the
weight of their world before they come in the door. The circumstances are always different but
the feeling is the same. They come in,
sigh, and sit in the chair to get their hair washed. I don’t take this step lightly. Putting your hands on someone else’s head and
washing their hair can be a very relaxing experience. I make sure the water is just the right
temperature and I take my time. In those
moments, I try not to talk too much (unless the client prefers conversation)
and I watch as the person slowly melts into the chair. Most times, if they let it, a peace takes
over. And, once the haircut starts, they
are calmer and more relaxed. It seems
like such a small thing. And, well, I
guess it is. But, what that small thing
does is changes the environment. It
shifts that person’s energy. They allow
me to give them a more relaxing experience.
And, for alittle while, whatever troubles they have, are put aside, or
talked about and they are cared for.
You may not
be a hairapist, but YOU, my reader, have the power to be a game changer. You have the ability to change the course of
someone else’s mood or day. Think about
it. When you are driving along the
highway and someone cuts you off and you are ENRAGED that person just changed
your commute to work a little, didn’t they?
So what if it were the opposite?
What if one little act of your authentic self was a game changer for
someone else?
My first
timers are overwhelmed most times. My
second timers are a little amused. My
regulars know this is who I am. Show
people who you are. Do something kind
before something “big” happens to another person you care about. It takes one small act to allow someone to
feel the kindness of the human spirit.
Somehow, it’s like the world has forgotten this. We are more concerned with being right, or
being angry or getting to where we need to be.
And, we are actually all suffering because of it.
Ellen
Degeneres is one of my favorite people.
Okay, I haven’t actually met her (yet) but I love her energy. At the end of every show, she says “Be kind
to one another”. Today, I am offering
you the same advice. And, I am also
going to challenge you. Tell someone
today you love them. You don’t have to
do it in some extravagant way (the boombox), but reach out “just because” not because of a
crisis. You never know when you might
not have that opportunity again.
Believe.
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