Pearl had
been a client of mine for about a year when she just disappeared. I have other clients who are friends with her
and when I asked what happened to her, I was told she had another baby and was
very busy. Now Pearl was driving quite a
distance to see me, so I assumed this excuse was legit but in the back of my
mind was still a little doubt. Was she
not happy with her highlights? I rarely
lose a client. What could I have
done? Maybe she wasn’t happy with her
last service. Maybe I said something she
didn’t like. Were my prices too much for
her?
Linda was a
close friend for a long time. And though
she was much younger than I was, we clicked immediately. I felt like I had another sister. She was there for me as if she was brought
into my life at exactly the right time.
And then, I got pregnant and we drifted apart. Did I do something? Did she not want me in her life anymore? What happened? And, of course I assumed the worst. And, because I was assuming the worst, I didn’t
get in touch with her because the thought of what it might be was not something I wanted to face.
Sound
familiar?
Why do we
assume the worst? And, even if it is the
worst case scenario, wouldn’t it be better to know? Too many times when faced with something
where we can’t fill in the blanks, we fill them in for ourselves. And, many times what we assume isn’t what
really IS at all.
I believe
people come into our lives in a season.
Whether it is a client in my chair or a friend who I meet at just the “right”
time, I need them. Or, maybe they even
need me. And then, many times, due to
circumstances life puts in front of us, we go our separate ways. Does there always have to be some conflict
making it an uncomfortable separation?
After all, we weren’t married. We
didn’t have a fight. We didn’t have words
and then walk away feeling the pain of a broken relationship. It’s life.
And, for every season, we are presented with the people we need to teach
us the lessons of our lives. So, instead
of feeling guilty that our lives didn’t continue to follow the same path, what
about embracing our own path and wishing them well on theirs? No drama, just peace. And gratitude for the season we shared
together.
Pearl came
back to me. She was in my chair just
yesterday. She has four kids now just
like me. We had so much to catch up on. And she explained how difficult it was to get
childcare to come and see me. She told
me how much she has missed my services and conversation. She brought pictures of her hair during the
time I used to do it and said she wants to get back to that look. WOHOO!
I reached
out to Linda because I couldn’t shake the feeling maybe I had done something to
offend her. We exchanged messages and
chalked it up to a misunderstanding. She
is in a different phase in her life than I am now. But, she is happy. And accomplishing the goals she always talked
about. I am at peace because now I know
instead of wondering at the back of my mind what happened.
Life is too
short to assume we know it all. And
though the struggles we are experiencing may not be the same as someone else’s,
we all have struggles. I think I am
going to try assuming less and reaching out more. What have you been assuming about
another? Have you thought to reach out?
Believe.
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